Reflections
AT ebb time I wrote a few lines upon the shore..and gave them all my heart and all my soul..at tide time I returned to read what I had inscribed and found my ignorance upon the shore.."jubran khalil"

:: Seven Years On

Alone at the new flat.Hardly feels like home.Everything's in boxes,dust everywhere.My husband was shipping the kids to my parents,(or was it his),so that we could arrange things and clean up a bit.It felt cold and empty,inspite of all the clutter surrounding me.I looked for a radio for some company .The boxes were labelled but with stacks upon stacks of sealed boxes ,finding one was an imopssible task.The only entertainment available was the VCR,which we hooked first thing ,not to miss the mandatory daily dose of Barney and Friends.And the only video tape I had around,with songs that did not revolve around pop corn ,and mac-and-cheese ,was our wedding video.Everyone agreed back then that our DJ did a wonderful job.So there,the music roled and I went to the kitchen to start the long long process of arranging cups and saucers,plates,pots,pans,cuttlery,other silverware,(melon scoop and garlic crusher,vegetable garnishing peelers,that lovely syrian invention...zuchini hollower thingie,who uses this stuff anyways..I always buy my zuchinis hollowed,life's too short for that sort of work..)pizza maker,fondue set..you might wonder?but that's great stuff for a small party..you never realize how much stuff you have till you move.I'm not moving again!!EVER!!!
BUT THAT'S NOT WHAT THIS POST'S ABOUT.
Going back and forth to the living room,I caught glimpses of the wedding.Sometimes catching my attention that I'd leave the water tap running while I sat for a few minutes to see what's been going on.Who are these people?SERIOUSLY.Something like 600 people were there.Do you really expect me to know all of them?But this tape's been causing me long sleepless hours for a few days now.
Do you know what could happen in less than seven years?
Do you know where you might be in less than seven years?
Do you know if you will BE in less than seven years?
HE,was a very good friend of ours.Can you see him wipe off my husbands forhead with his handkerchief,and hand him a sip of his scotch while we were dancing?We don't talk to him anymore.He wasn't that genuine after all.
SHE,looked so radiant in her black dress.Beautiful and merry.Dancing with her husband.Last year she died of cancer.At the age of thirty!
THEY danced the night away,looking like love birds.I never liked her much though.Two years ago,they divorced, after twenty years of marriage.
SHE,was single.Nice,kind hearted girl.Since then,she got married.And divorced.Twice.To two different men.Now,she's happily married to the third,with two kids.
HE,was so vibrant,the soul of the party.Happy and proud.Now he's sick,but fighting like no other man would.He will be better very soon I know,if anyone can do it it's him.Peace, man!
HE,was the DJ.A few weddings later,he died in a car accident.
HE,grew up into an amazing young man.Got married and has a cute little baby.
THEY,were still dating then,we danced at their wedding 2 years ago.They were the last to visit us n the old flat,drinking and eating out of paper stuff,and the first non-family to pop in at the new one with dai3a shawerma for a lovely night after a long moving day.
SHE,graduated with honors,pursuing her Phd now.
THEY,had a baby after years of anguish waiting.The other's on the way.
AND US?here we are:the few years scheduled to be spent in Qatar were reduced to ten months.We moved three houses since then,still pursuing our careers,have two beautiful kids,or at least I'd like to think so!
Our families are both doing great.We may wish them better health,more comfort,and more ease of mind,but the Lord has been good to all of us,and for that we're thankful.
Seven years on,ten years on,fifty years on....tomorrow,or even next ten minutes,your world might spin around in a matter of seconds.
Live,and let live.And most of all Enjoy.

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On May, 04, 2006 9:23 PM , kinzi said:

Salam, thanks for this second hand participation in your wedding celebration! Many, many deep thoughts and memories...I wonder if God's plan for that day wasn't just moving in, but providing a few moments of quiet reflection on the joys and pain sof life and loving.

May God bless you and hubby with many more years of spirited relationship!

(So...how to get to your house?)


On May, 04, 2006 11:58 PM , ZD said:

Salam,
May you live to enjoy the company of your grandchildren's children. This was a very heartfelt and moving post. ~Thank you.


On May, 05, 2006 3:37 AM , Lina K said:

Hey Salam,
Have been visiting your blogg on/off since March I think.. You always have enchanted me with your topics, whether it is about life in general or about a future or career dilemma! However this one, Seven years On, made me think! take a pause, breath deeply for a minute or so! So accurate and true what you are writing, one never knows what tomorrow might bring! Yet we seem to never think about it more. But in the way you presented it" describing actual ppl you have been friends with, danced with, had dinners with. Ppl whome no longer are parts of this world. This way you had me reflecting over my lfe and how happy I am to be where I am today.. With all my loved ones in good health!
Alhadolillah & Thank you.


On May, 05, 2006 8:24 AM , jameed said:

Nice...

You talk about 600 guests and 7 years later. I and H. and connect: 1100+ guests and 5 years later.

He...well he died a week after the wedding.

My best man, yeah he too died the following year.

She,...don't even get me started.

They,...who the hell are those people? I have no idea who my parents invited to the wedding. We certainly do not know a thousand people. It was a demonstration of old comrades and extended, EXTENDED nasayeb, some I met for the first and last time that day.

Eh! Even I in my wildest dreams did not think I would be living in Springville, Utah.


On May, 05, 2006 11:14 AM , Rebecca said:

Dear Salam,
I'm speachless. I have nothing to add to what you have said here. Thank you for sharing with us the reminder that life is uncertain.
May God bless you.
Rebecca


On May, 05, 2006 2:15 PM , Anonymous said:

salam

i was really touched by your writing ; but the great thing about this is that it is your own house(which is mashalla very nice house ) that you moved to not a rented house again .you must be very glad . alf mabrouk inshalla and enjoy it.
regards
Bro yousef


On May, 05, 2006 7:20 PM , hope said:

Just today I was asking about the news of the husband and kids of the 30 year old who died of cancer two years ago. So sad, especially for the two kids. Life is full of surprises, good and bad, but its biggest surprise is definitely death, where one stands helpless, speechless. On another note, mabrook the new house, and happy unpacking!


On May, 06, 2006 11:10 AM , salam said:

Thanks Kinzi,same wishes to you.Will e-mail you now.
Thank you ZD ,SAME GOES TO YOU.
Thanks Lina,sometimes one does need to be reminded to count his blessings!
1100 Jameed?i thought my wedding was big!!wow!!
Rebecca,are you settled in now?wish you the best.
Yous..habibi..thanks and 3ogbalak!
Hope,if you know who I'm talking about then I would probably know you?no..?Well you intrigued me so if you don't mind me knowing you,please write to me my emial's on the site's contacts.


On May, 06, 2006 8:00 PM , randa said:

Hey Salam,
This is really great. Go on.

Thanks for opening our eyes.

keep up the good work.

Randa


On May, 07, 2006 5:11 PM , wedad said:

great post salam, you also touched me :0) and you are right we have to live our lifes by seconds and enjoy it whatever is happening.
god is good :)


On May, 08, 2006 1:14 PM , 7ala said:

At the beginning of the post I felt bored but when you started talking about your wedding celebration and about the people and their destinies I found the post soul.

Your voice is very loud in this post, I can hear you deeply salam.


On May, 08, 2006 2:46 PM , Anonymous said:

That is great.
mabrouk the new house.
yours,

Randa


On May, 08, 2006 2:51 PM , Anonymous said:

That is great.
Congrats on your new house.

Yours,

Randa


On May, 09, 2006 11:33 PM , Anonymous said:

Salam and Jameed... you guys have reminded me of many loved ones who have passed on.... but let's remember their cheerful spirits and their never fading smiles and not the tragedy of their death.

On a cheerful note, if and when i get married I think i'll hold the reception in Stad Amman to save my dad the agony of limiting his guest list to 1100 people :)

May God bless you and your loved ones with the best of health.


On May, 10, 2006 11:28 AM , salam said:

Thanks everyone,and may God Bless the souls of those who passed away.




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