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:: Parental Paradox

Wednesday, November 07, 2007

Since my last Tantrum, parenting has been proving to be a bigger challenge than I expected it to be:

You want to be the fun parent, but you also want to be the firm parent!

You want to be patient, but you have so little time to let things go at your kids' pace!

You want to make sure you never compare your kid to others, but it's such a competitive world out there you can't help it!

You want to be fair with your kids, but you often end up taking the naughty one's side to get rid of his nagging!

You want to teach them to be humble, but you also want them to have pride!

You want to teach them to be nice to other kids, but you also want to teach them to stand up for themselves!

You want them to be bold and frank, but you also want them to be polite!

You want them to be natural and spontaneous, but you still want them to think ahead!

You want to guide them, but you also want them to be able to make their own decisions!

You want to offer them the world, but you don't want to spoil them!

You want to help them, but you also want them to learn to be independent!

You want to have them so close to you, but you still want to give them their space!

You want to have them so close to you, but you still need YOUR space!

You want to show them off,but you don't want to embarass them!

You want them to be normal kids, but you also want them to be special!

You want to give them their freedom, but you can't deprive them from your protection!

You see yourself in them, so you push them to fulfill your own dreams, but you still want them to be happy pursuing theirs!

Does it ever get easier?

On November, 07, 2007 12:11 PM , kinzi said:

Ya Salam, you have hit the nail on the head!!

I read your post as I was on the phone with a mom who is one the last leg of parenting 4 kids. She said it never ends, just the angle changes.

God give us wisdom!!

On November, 07, 2007 4:34 PM , summer
from Lebanon said:

Salam, nice post!
do not be shocked, but parenting never ends...each age has its own challenges, even when the kids get older...some things get easier with time but others get harder too. but be sure that there are many rewards for raising kids, having them around healthy and happy and knowing that you did the best you can is the best feeling. enjoy them when they are young, they grow up so fast and one day you will wake up and they are out of the house....i still miss my young ones, no matter how old they get!

On November, 09, 2007 12:40 AM , halataha said:

Do you see why i say about marriage and kids "waj3et ras" ?!
And do you know now the reason why i dont want to get married?!

Allah ykhalleelek eyahom ya Salam.

On November, 09, 2007 11:30 AM , sam
from Jordan said:

parenting is never easy...u do not know what is right and what is wrong...something works with a hundered kids but wont work with one...but i guess it has its rewards...so reassuring kinzi and summer

On November, 09, 2007 1:23 PM , sam
from Jordan said:

parenting is never easy...u do not know what is right and what is wrong...something works with a hundered kids but wont work with one...but i guess it has its rewards...so reassuring kinzi and summer

On November, 10, 2007 9:13 AM , Silvia said:

Very nice and sincere post Salam..I think all parents have this dilemma ..We expect a lot from our kids when in fact we ourselves don’t know what we want!

On November, 11, 2007 11:14 AM , salam
from Jordan said:

Kinzi, Summer, Sam and Sylvia..thanks for your words..its always nice to hear that one is not alone out there..

7ala..come on!! you know how rewarding this can be, but one is entitled to vent..no? One day you wil make a great mom!!

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